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The words we inherit. The ones we question.
The ones we write, publish, underline, and argue with.

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Show, Don't Tell: What It Actually Means (With Examples That Make Sense)
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Show, Don't Tell: What It Actually Means (With Examples That Make Sense)

f you’ve been around writers, or Googled “how to write better,” you’ve no doubt come across this golden rule or writing:
“Show, don’t tell.”

But WTF does that even mean? Like, show what? Tell what? Am I supposed to mime my trauma onto the page?

Well, I’ve got you, without the fluff and condescending remarks. And I’ll include a few examples that actually make sense.

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How Language Shapes Reality (And How to Rewrite Your Life)
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How Language Shapes Reality (And How to Rewrite Your Life)

The words you use, both out loud and internally, are not neutral. They function as instructions to the brain, as filters for perception, and as scripts for identity. Over time, they don’t just describe your experience, they begin to define it.

If the language doesn’t change, the pattern doesn’t change. At best, you end up sprucing the same story with slightly better thoughts.

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The “Time Is Money” Spell: A 200-Year-Old Lie We're Breaking
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The “Time Is Money” Spell: A 200-Year-Old Lie We're Breaking

That moment someone asks for your hourly rate and your entire nervous system recoils like you're probably better off selling your big toe on OnlyFans.

Meanwhile, the 23-year-old tradie who looks like he's barely old enough to buy a beer quotes $180 to check your pipes and nobody questions it. We've collectively decided his time is valuable because... he charges for it, without apology. He doesn't even cringe.

So why do we?

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#BreakTheSpell: Nice
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#BreakTheSpell: Nice

Nice was never neutral. It was a velvet-gloved command: be pleasant, be agreeable, don’t make anyone uncomfortable.

An extract from the upcoming Little Dictionary of Distorted Words, Volume One: RECLAIMED.

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