Ep.33/ Sex, Drugs, Rock & Frequency with Ruth G
Owning your part in whatever’s not working is essential… but so is refusing to camp there. Because play isn’t a break from the work. It is the work.
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Some people walk into a room and the energy shifts. Ruth G is one of them.
Shame, rejection, judgement. Feeling alone without ever really being alone. When you’re born gay into a strict religious community it’s just your version of ‘normal’. Damaging, yes, but it’s the harsh reality Ruth G found herself in as she fumbled her way through trusting what felt so right and being told was so unforgivably wrong. But for Ruth, it was exactly what set her free.
I first met Ruth when I wrote her bio, so I already knew she had a gift for helping people get out of their own way — but having her on the podcast was a whole other level.
Like any good rock & roll story, it’s not all clean lines and perfect timing. There were detours, breakdowns, and the kind of wild nights that teach you exactly who you’re not… so you can finally step into who you are.
Growing Up in a World That Didn’t See Her
Ruth’s early life was a masterclass in suppression.
Being gay in a community that treated it as sin meant her truest self was locked away behind layers of fear of judgement and self-censorship.
Leaving was a decision that led to an unraveling. Walking away meant losing her identity, her community, and the version of herself she’d been told was “good.” It was both terrifying and liberating — like stepping off a cliff and discovering wings mid-fall.
The Wild Years That Taught Her Freedom
Life after religion wasn’t instantly a zen garden. There were years of chaos—the literal sex, drugs, and rock & roll lifestyle—not as rebellion for its own sake, but as a crash course in what it meant to taste freedom without yet knowing how to hold it.
Every “what the hell am I doing?” moment stripped away the polite masks, forced her to confront her patterns, and taught her that freedom without self-awareness is just another kind of cage.
Frequency Is a Choice
Somewhere between the chaos and the calm, Ruth realised that the most radical thing she could do was tune herself. Not to the noise of other people’s opinions or the static of her past, but to the frequency she actually wanted to live in.
That’s when she became her own “Frequency DJ”, learning how to shift her inner state with as much intention as a DJ moves a dance floor.
For Ruth, frequency is a daily practice rather than some woo-woo concept you leave in a meditation room. Every thought, every conversation, every “yes” or “no” is either raising or lowering your energy.
The trick? Pay attention. She says most people don’t even realise they’re running on autopilot, soaking in everyone else’s moods, stress, and limitations. When you start choosing your own frequency, you stop living at the mercy of the room.
Owning Your Sh*t Without Shame
Ruth is blunt about it — you can’t change what you won’t own. Every time she handed her power to someone else’s approval, she lost a piece of herself. Every time she pulled it back, she grew stronger.
Owning your sh*t is about self-liberation. If you want to change your life, you’ve got to own where you’re holding yourself back. That doesn’t mean spiralling into guilt or shame; it‘s more about calling it what it is and deciding you’re done with it.
Play as a Power Source
One of my favourite parts of this conversation was Ruth’s reminder that play is not optional if you want to live in alignment. We’ve been trained to think joy is something we earn after the hard work is done, but what if joy is the hard work?
She lives in a way that would have been unthinkable in her old world, using joy as fuel instead of a guilty pleasure. When you make space for the things that light you up, you naturally start magnetising more of what you want.
Ruth now teaches others to drop the heaviness, ditch the shame, and actually have fun raising their frequency.
Because life’s too short to be lived on someone else’s playlist.
Potent Takeaways to Put into Practice
Check your frequency daily – Notice how you feel before you walk into a room, take a call, or start your work. Shift it on purpose.
Drop the shame, keep the honesty – Name the habits, patterns, or beliefs that keep you small… then change them without beating yourself up.
Inject more play – Schedule something that makes you feel alive and a little ridiculous. Treat it as non-negotiable.
Final Thoughts
This conversation is a love letter to anyone who’s ever been told they’re too much, too different, or too wrong. Ruth’s story proves that your freedom is in cranking your own volume up so high that the static of shame can’t touch you.
Ruth left me (and I hope you) with this: Your frequency is your responsibility. Own it. Shape it. And for the love of God, have some fun while you’re doing it.
Ruth creates frequency based music for healing, regulation, and deep rest. Think: sound medicine for emotional release and energetic balance. She’s on Insight Timer and Bandcamp, or find here here: thefrequencydj.com